“God allows us to experience the low
points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in any other
way. The way we learn those lessons is not to deny the feelings but to find the
meanings underlying them.” - Stanley
Lindquist
It’s unfortunate that suicides are
increasing at an alarming rate in India and especially in the South India with
Andhra Pradesh topping in number of suicides. It is sad to note that people
commit suicide on petty issues and especially Indian youth are committing more
on insignificant issues. Research reveals that next to road accidents it is the
suicides leading to loss of Indian youth. Most of the suicides would’ve been
averted if the youth were counseled properly and guided timely. Hence, I decided to address this problem
squarely as I’m passionate about my Indian youth.
Youth are often carried away by temporary
emotions and adopt short-cut to cut short their lives. They must realize that
God has given them life and He alone can take it. Some of the causes among the
youth are due to failure in love, academic pressure, poor performance, unable
to live up to parental expectations, and financial hardships.
Acquire
Emotional Quotient (EQ)
Life is full of ups and downs and
people must learn to balance their emotions and motivate their emotions
especially when they hit lows in their lives. If they exercise restraint and
hold positive thoughts for a few seconds they’ll be able to bounce back from
depression and stay motivated. When they
feel uncomfortable and are carried away by suicidal tendencies they must
consult doctors or share their inner feelings with their family members or
trusted friends to find comfort and come out with solutions. In this regard, people should understand
emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) where it’s a fivefold process of
identifying their emotions, managing their emotions, motivating their emotions,
identifying the emotions of others and managing them. When the affected people
find themselves in depression mode they must learn to manage and motivate their
emotions to come back to normalcy quickly.
Observe
Children
It’s observed that the people who’ve
suicidal tendencies demonstrate abnormal behavior, different mood levels and
often stay aloof from others. When
parents find such tendencies in their children they must spend some time with
their children to connect and create emotional stability. Parents must not put any pressure on their
children to score high grades and marks academically. It may result in feeling guilty or depressed
when they don’t perform well. Parents
must encourage competitive and collaborate spirit among their children to
enable them to compete and collaborate as per the situation. If children don’t perform well academically
they should be put in their passionate areas so that they can enjoy what they
like to do and grow in their lives.
Parents must not compare their children with others as everyone is
unique in the world with unique gifts and talents. In addition, when they compare their children
with others they are insulting their children by downplaying their children’s’
unique strengths and gifts. Parents must
also monitor movements of their children and their friends with whom they move
closely to understand their pulse and act accordingly.
Take
Action
Here are a few steps to check suicidal
tendencies and bounce back from depression:
- Set goals in your life. When you set goals you can remove your negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. You can manage your time and stay focused clearly on your goals to provide meaning to your life.
- Think positive and be positive through your inner dialogue. We all have inner dialogue wherein we talk to ourselves throughout the day. Set that dialogue tone positive to become positive and behave positive.
- Surround with positive people. When you surround with positive people you get positive vibes and grow like a healthy individual.
- Hit gym regularly or do meditation or go for a walk as it builds high energy levels and provides you with a positive outlook towards life.
- Talk to someone with whom you feel comfortable when you hit lows.
- Take meal regularly to fuel your body constantly with energy and enthusiasm.
- Read good books, magazines and novels to acquire knowledge and build positive attitude.
- Find out your passionate areas and pursue your hobbies. When you pursue them you enjoy your life fully and also build a network of likeminded friends.
- Have fun in life. Enjoy your present life without worrying about the unpleasant past and the unpredictable future.
- Consult psychiatrist when you hit lows frequently to get timely help.
- Enjoy your journey of life to reach your final destination of success.
- Above all, look at the door that is opened, not the one that is closed.
Face
Challenges
Suicide is not the solution for
several problems in the world. If suicide
is the only solution we’ll find only dead bodies on the earth as all human
beings have problems. The truth is that
some people disclose their problems while some conceal their problems as
mindsets of the people are different.
It is rightly said, ‘when God solves
your problems, you have faith in his abilities….When He doesn’t solve your
problems, He has faith in your abilities…” Hence, face the challenges
head-on. When the going gets tough,
tough gets going. Life is incomplete
without peaks and valleys. Remember that
it’s the weak who commit suicide while the strong survive in the world. Hence,
be a strong person and face the battles in your life.
God has created you with some
purpose. You’ve only one life. Your role is to execute your tasks
effectively and leave this world a better place to live for others. Do your duties sincerely and always think of
contributing your best to make a difference in the lives of others. You’ve no right to take your life. No religion encourages suicide. Remember, it is a privilege to be born as a
human being.
"Count your blessings. Once you
realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles
will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally
be able to move forward in the life that God intended for you with grace,
strength, courage, and confidence." - Og Mandino
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