Sunday 30 December 2012

“Avoid Suicidal Tendencies to Live Long Life with Meaning and Success” - Professor M.S.Rao


“God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in any other way. The way we learn those lessons is not to deny the feelings but to find the meanings underlying them.” -  Stanley Lindquist


It’s unfortunate that suicides are increasing at an alarming rate in India and especially in the South India with Andhra Pradesh topping in number of suicides. It is sad to note that people commit suicide on petty issues and especially Indian youth are committing more on insignificant issues. Research reveals that next to road accidents it is the suicides leading to loss of Indian youth. Most of the suicides would’ve been averted if the youth were counseled properly and guided timely.  Hence, I decided to address this problem squarely as I’m passionate about my Indian youth.

Youth are often carried away by temporary emotions and adopt short-cut to cut short their lives. They must realize that God has given them life and He alone can take it. Some of the causes among the youth are due to failure in love, academic pressure, poor performance, unable to live up to parental expectations, and financial hardships.

Acquire Emotional Quotient (EQ)

Life is full of ups and downs and people must learn to balance their emotions and motivate their emotions especially when they hit lows in their lives. If they exercise restraint and hold positive thoughts for a few seconds they’ll be able to bounce back from depression and stay motivated.  When they feel uncomfortable and are carried away by suicidal tendencies they must consult doctors or share their inner feelings with their family members or trusted friends to find comfort and come out with solutions.  In this regard, people should understand emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) where it’s a fivefold process of identifying their emotions, managing their emotions, motivating their emotions, identifying the emotions of others and managing them. When the affected people find themselves in depression mode they must learn to manage and motivate their emotions to come back to normalcy quickly.


Observe Children

It’s observed that the people who’ve suicidal tendencies demonstrate abnormal behavior, different mood levels and often stay aloof from others.  When parents find such tendencies in their children they must spend some time with their children to connect and create emotional stability.  Parents must not put any pressure on their children to score high grades and marks academically.  It may result in feeling guilty or depressed when they don’t perform well.  Parents must encourage competitive and collaborate spirit among their children to enable them to compete and collaborate as per the situation.  If children don’t perform well academically they should be put in their passionate areas so that they can enjoy what they like to do and grow in their lives.  Parents must not compare their children with others as everyone is unique in the world with unique gifts and talents.  In addition, when they compare their children with others they are insulting their children by downplaying their children’s’ unique strengths and gifts.  Parents must also monitor movements of their children and their friends with whom they move closely to understand their pulse and act accordingly. 


Take Action

Here are a few steps to check suicidal tendencies and bounce back from depression:

  • Set goals in your life. When you set goals you can remove your negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts.  You can manage your time and stay focused clearly on your goals to provide meaning to your life.
  • Think positive and be positive through your inner dialogue.  We all have inner dialogue wherein we talk to ourselves throughout the day.  Set that dialogue tone positive to become positive and behave positive.
  • Surround with positive people.  When you surround with positive people you get positive vibes and grow like a healthy individual.
  • Hit gym regularly or do meditation or go for a walk as it builds high energy levels and provides you with a positive outlook towards life.
  • Talk to someone with whom you feel comfortable when you hit lows.
  • Take meal regularly to fuel your body constantly with energy and enthusiasm.
  • Read good books, magazines and novels to acquire knowledge and build positive attitude.
  • Find out your passionate areas and pursue your hobbies.  When you pursue them you enjoy your life fully and also build a network of likeminded friends.
  • Have fun in life.  Enjoy your present life without worrying about the unpleasant past and the unpredictable future.
  • Consult psychiatrist when you hit lows frequently to get timely help.          
  • Enjoy your journey of life to reach your final destination of success.
  • Above all, look at the door that is opened, not the one that is closed.


Face Challenges

Suicide is not the solution for several problems in the world.  If suicide is the only solution we’ll find only dead bodies on the earth as all human beings have problems.  The truth is that some people disclose their problems while some conceal their problems as mindsets of the people are different.

It is rightly said, ‘when God solves your problems, you have faith in his abilities….When He doesn’t solve your problems, He has faith in your abilities…” Hence, face the challenges head-on.  When the going gets tough, tough gets going.  Life is incomplete without peaks and valleys.  Remember that it’s the weak who commit suicide while the strong survive in the world. Hence, be a strong person and face the battles in your life.

God has created you with some purpose.  You’ve only one life.  Your role is to execute your tasks effectively and leave this world a better place to live for others.  Do your duties sincerely and always think of contributing your best to make a difference in the lives of others.  You’ve no right to take your life.  No religion encourages suicide.  Remember, it is a privilege to be born as a human being.
                                                                                          

"Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward in the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence." - Og Mandino



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Tuesday 25 December 2012

“Goals for 2013” - Professor M.S.Rao



"A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline." - Harvey Mackay


Dear friend,

Happy Christmas and New Year – 2013!

As we are entering into a new year we must set our goals in such a way that we will do the things in a different manner to accomplish and achieve the impossible. When we do routine things routinely we get routine results. In contrast, when we do things differently we will achieve unique outcomes. Hence, from this year onwards let us change the way we think, do and act to make the future better.

If you want to become a successful professional in your area of interest you must invest 1,000 hours regularly. It helps you establish and build your professional brand. Malcolm Gladwell, the Author of Outliers rightly said, “People who thrive put in at least 1000 hours of sustained, consistent training to reach their potential.” Hence, choose your passionate area and then invest your precious time, energy and resources into it for 1,000 hours and I am sure you will be an expert in your domain and an authority in it.  People look to you for your guidance and advice and you grow as a leader. 

Remember that if you invest for 10,000 hours in your passionate area (3 years approximately) consistently, you become a regional celebrity. If you invest 20,000 hours (6 years approximately) you become a national celebrity. If you invest for 30,000 hours (9 years approximately) consistently you become an international celebrity.

Set SMART goals where SMART is the acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound. Ensure that you ink your goals and read daily twice after you get up from bed and before you go to bed. Divide your goals into short-term and long-term goals and align them without any contradiction.  Keep moving forward by taking feedback regularly. One day you will find yourself on the top of the world where everyone looks to you for your guidance and you enjoy great respect.

All the best!






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Monday 24 December 2012

“Don’t Compare with Others. Be Yourself” - Professor M.S.Rao



“When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everybody will respect you.” - Lao Tzu


People often compare with others.  They compare themselves to be like Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Barack Obama or somebody else.  They underestimate themselves and rarely think of their hidden potential.  At times, it leads to dissatisfaction and depression. Sometimes they expect more than what they want without looking at the pros and cons.  Here goes the story of a beautiful horse that wanted to be something else:  
                                      
Once there was a beautiful horse.  It wanted to look more attractive and beautiful. It often felt bad that its legs were fat and neck was small. Hence, it prayed to God to gift with a long neck and lean feet.  God advised the horse to reconsider the request. The horse was adamant and determined to have the desired appearance and stood by its request. God provided the boon and horse looked like a camel with long neck and lean legs. It felt very bad but could not help. In our real lives also, people are not happy with what they have and they still crave more by comparing with others.

God created you with some purpose and special appearance. Don’t try to become somebody else. Don’t compare with others as comparing with others is an insult to you. Alen Strike rightly said, “Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world.  If you do so, you are insulting yourself.”  Besides, people often confuse comparison with inspiration as both are different. You can take inspiration from others but you cannot compare with others. Remember that you have unique strengths, skills, and abilities. Hence, be yourself and stand out!


“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone's task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it.” - Viktor E. Frankl



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